Where a true love exists two souls are drawn together by love and not by passion, as it is love that endures and passion that fades, Also there is a soul longing that sex will not satisfy or sustain. True love is a spiritual experience and not an exercise in eroticism. Where there is true love sex becomes an extension of love, or a complete fulfillment of that love above the level of sheer passion. When there is a complete surrender to love the heart thrills and one then sees themselves mirrored in the beloved. Love is a need for the fulfillment of the very purpose of creation itself. One always carries in their heart and mind the image of the loved one they long for. Often such is an ancient memory and sometimes, out of desperation, one settles for a poor substitute and they do not find the happiness they had hoped for. Also, in some cases one marries because of karma that has to be worked out in this life.

The so-called search for a soul mate is the search for a loved one who was known in a past life and who they cannot find in this life. The search for a perfect relationship, in actual life, hardly exists because this is a lesson world and we are here to learn from each other for our mutual growth.

If a couple falls madly in love with each other and, because of circumstances beyond their control, they are separated and marry someone else, the image of each other always remains in their hearts and never dies. And they carry this all of their life and when they think of one another a great sadness comes over them. However, as nothing can separate one from a true love forever, often in the next life they meet each other in their youth and nothing will ever separate them as long as they live, and they live usually for each other.

Love is the motivating force of creation and anyone who lives with love in their heart will live in happiness and peace. Love means not to use someone or anyone. Rather, it means that we should treat everyone as we in turn would like to be treated. This is what the world is turning to in the New Age.

Where there is love things go along smoothly and not in jerks, stops and starts; life goes along ever so smoothly. When there is a constant effort exerted in order that two may live together this is usually a karmic arrangement and certain things must be worked out. Then, generally, when the karma has been worked out, the two part as friends, and not where one or the other suffers as a result of the separation. Otherwise, the karma is not concluded and must be picked up again in a later life, and if neccessary, again and again until it is finally worked out.

Couples who truly love each other very much desire to have children. However couples in a karmic marriage, usually do not care to have children and if they do, it generally becomes an extension of their karma which is to be worked out.

In a true marriage there must be an infinity in the physical, mental and spiritual, otherwise the marriage suffers. If the physical affinity is missing there is frustration and a dryness in life. If the mental is missing there is a lack of communication and interpretation in life. If the spiritual is missing there is a lack of harmony, inner peace and happiness because each is going a different direction and not moving through life side by side as they should.

For any marriage love must be at the very heart of the union. Infatuations are usually where one is attracted to another by one or more facets of their personality, generally because one sees a resemblance to the one they are really seeking. And when they find that there is something missing that they really need, they fall away from that person and go on seeking and sometimes they never find them; hence the old maid and old bachelor.

Also, there certain astrological signs that we are compatible with and some we are not so compatible with. On the low end of the scale this is very important, while on the spiritual level, for an initiate, it is not so important since an initiate is guided by the soul and not any longer by the stars.

In the days when convention dictated that there be a two year engagement period, this had very much merit, because in that two years each knew if they were really meant for each other. In life it is true that we have an affinity for some people and little or none for others and this is the nature of life. So we seek out people we are comfortable with and leave the rest alone as much as it is possible, only contacting them when there is some karma to be worked out.

Love is the highest vibration one is capable of. However, there are different qualities of love, from total selfishness to pure unselfishness. Yet, at all levels, love is very fragile and it can be destroyed if it is abused. Yet, if one handles it with care, it will sustain one all through life.

Marriage is a state of life where two are meant to go through life somewhat as co-equals and not as dictator and a slave, or as a mental giant and a mental midget. In marriage both step into the same boat (usually thought of as the same bed) and both should pull their own oar, or the boat, named marriage, will go around in circles and finally sink. Love is always the common denominator and when this is kept in mind all goes well and if this is forgotten chaos ensues.

A true soul mate, however, is really one's higher Self. And we are that higher Self; we are that immortal soul that was never born and that will never die. It is the lower self that longs to be rejoined with the higher Self and this is one's real soul mate.